Ijust returned from a wellness retreat in Hawaiiand I'm more committed than ever to The Haven Vitality and Wellness room.*
It's been a busy few years in my life. I've had two kids (now 1.5 and 3.5 years), founded a new non profit called School Board Partners, supported my husband to expand our Cascade Relays Beer Chase series to San Diego and Boulder, was elected to Bend-La Pine School Board and decided to open The Haven.
In order to survive, I convinced myself that I could forgo exercise, alone time and healthy eating for a few years. Just until my girls got a little older. Just until my non profit was up and running. Just until The Haven became sustainable... You get the idea.
“I’ve thought about opening a co-working space like this…” is one of the most frequent comments I’ve heard throughout the last year. If so many other women have thought about it, what kept them from being able to do it? As many of you know, being an entrepreneur is hard, and there are countless obstacles to overcome along the journey. I didn’t grow up in a family of entrepreneurs, so the sheer number of obstacles has been somewhat surprising to me, and I simply wouldn’t have continued without the strong support of my husband. If you haven’t had a close-up view of entrepreneurship and you run into a challenge or two, you might think it’s a sign that you should quit. To the contrary, I’ve learned that obstacles require me to dig more deeply, to recommit to my why, and to help refine my mission and business plan for the better. So, in an effort to be more transparent about the realities of entrepreneurship, I wanted to share some of the obstacles we’ve faced trying to open The Haven. This is not a request for sympathy! This is a request for all of us to more authentically and honestly talk about the realities of work and life so that we can better support each other through the good and bad times.
As with all entrepreneurial ventures, The Haven was born out of a unique set of experiences over the past 20 years that led me to this moment. In particular, four experiences and beliefs were the primary drivers behind The Haven: my experience as a remote worker, my belief in community, my lifelong fight for justice and equity, and becoming an elected official. I’ll dig into each of these in later blogs, but here’s the short version.
Our newsletter name uses a term - grit- that has become problematic in some of the ways it is used. My day job is in urban education, where I am focused on supporting elected leaders of color and white leaders who are trying to dismantle the institutionalized racism and oppression inherent in our nation's public schools. Over the past few years, educators working in schools with high numbers of students of color or students who come from low-income neighborhoods have begun to misuse a concept made popular by Dr. Angela Duckworth in her work on growth mindset.